“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 108: initial Dates | Autostraddle

This week we’re accompanied by journalist,

To L and Straight Back

co-host, potential TV exec, and my personal roomie
Analyssa Lopez
! We are writing on first times — the just who, the what, the wherein, the why, as well as the just how.

But before we go into the actual online dating physical lives, Christina fanfics a number of well known queer celebrities in a game of prefer Triangles!


SHOW NOTES

+ One homosexual kiss wasn’t enough to get

Nine Perfect Visitors

greater than #42 in my
Nicole Kidman ranking
.

+ adore Triangle celebrities pulled from Christina’s ever-delightful
No Filter line
.

+ Christina and I also talked more about first times as soon as we were on
Bad with cash
.

+ Analyssa’s crush associated with the few days
shining on TikTok
.

+ In addition a great anecdote about Jessica Chastain: I saw the lady carry out a Q&A after a screening for

Molly’s Game

and she had been so positioned and comfortable and phony however in a remarkable great way. I’d the thought,

We bet Jessica Chastain never battles to transmit a message

. And since subsequently whenever i am creating a business-y mail i simply tell myself,

You’re Jessica Chastain. You’re Jessica Chastain.

Works pretty much.

+ Here’s
my personal interview with Isabel Sandoval
and listed here are
her flicks in the Criterion Channel
.

+ Did you hear the news? The day development? Christina is
recapping

The Day Show

.



Christina:

Certainly one of my very first day techniques is actually guaranteeing perhaps not asking any questions. I shall come-back from a night out together and my pals will be similar, “How was it? What do they are doing? In which would they stay?” And I’ll end up like, “little idea. I managed to get absolutely nothing.” I’m not sure the things I converse pertaining to on dates, but it is never ever any appropriate info that anybody would want to hear on a follow up, because i am always similar, oh yeah, I’m certain they usually have a career. I am not sure the goals.


Theme tune plays


Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina:

I’m Christina.


Drew:

And this is,

Wait, Is This a Date?


Christina:


Wait, Is This a night out together?

is an Autostraddle podcast dedicated to responding to this outdated question: wait, is it a night out together?


Drew:

Day-after-day we get more and more quality and find out more and a lot more how to talk to the other person and the community.


Christina:

Wow. That was thus gorgeous and touching.

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Drew:

Thanks A Lot.


Christina:

Plus very lightly robot in a way that I really appreciated.


Drew:

Great. Going for like queer cult. Yeah.


Christina:

Yeah. Okay. Because you’ve viewed, just how much? You done

Nine Best Strangers

yesterday?


Drew:

I did so. We saw every thing in one single time. Really, and the final event ended up being the morning after, while we created my personal brand-new shelf. It was a proper effective… which is just how much focus is provided to that tv system.


Christina:

So that you’re just not coming at us from a proper room, as you happened to be in a cult.


Drew:

Yeah, that has been a few days ago. It isn’t really suitable to actually have messed with me too much. However you know what? Occasionally terrible tv is required, specially when it stars countless performers. Oh, we must discuss exactly who our company is.


Christina:

Oh yeah. Correct.


Drew:

We generally do this.


Christina:

Here we’re discussing

Nine Great Strangers,

a Television program not one person cares about.


Drew:

Okay, well i’m called Drew Gregory. I’m an author for Autostraddle. I’m a filmmaker, I’m a trans individual, I am a lesbian individual. Yeah. And that I perform love Nicole Kidman.


Christina:

Amazing work. I Am Christina Tucker. Also a writer for Autostraddle, Im a lesbian individual in addition to thankful that

The Day Show

is back inside my life because it’s truly already been, well, destroying it, but in a great way. We like bad television!


Drew:

Yeah. That’s great bad television. That is exceptional. Yeah.


Christina:

Chef’s kiss. Cook’s kiss.


Drew:

Really, should we become into all of our video game?


Christina:

I am very enthusiastic to determine, what’s via your small head today?


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

What horrors perhaps you have developed?


Drew:

So this game is called enjoy Triangles.


Christina:

Oh child.


Drew:

And you will see that We have a hat here. Okay?


Christina:

Okay.


Drew:

And inside the cap are pieces of report with 10 reoccurring people that appear on Christinais no filtration line, and that’s specialized in star gossip and Instagram posts. Right after which absolutely your title and my title. And I also’m going to pick three labels using this hat, and you are planning wear the brilliant Christina fanfic limit, and just let me know precisely what the really love triangle is between those three individuals.


Christina:

Wow. Okay. I will simply take a drink of Diet Coke and I also’m gonna be ready with this.


Drew:

Yeah. Just what vibrant would-be. Okay. And That Means You see—


Christina:

I really like you put circumstances in a hat. It is thus real.


Drew:

Yeah. I really like it. After all, its a podcast, therefore nobody is able to really trust, but I promise that, one, I am not appearing. Two, it’s all haphazard. Okay. Ready?


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Drew:

Okay. And so the first name is Tessa Thompson.


Christina:

Famous.


Drew:

Hayley Kiyoko.


Christina:

Mm.


Drew:

And Rosie O’Donnell.


Christina:

Now this can be interesting, because just what fuck are the ones three people carrying out with each other? My gut is saying that Tessa and Rosie are probably will be our main major triangle times right here, because personally i think like that’s the only real probable way to approach this screwing trolley ass issue of a love triangle that you’ve given me personally. Therefore I feel just like they, I am not sure, came across at a celebration, Tessa ended up being feeling wild. She was like, “It really is Rosie O’Donnell. I will attach with Rosie O’Donnell because precisely why the hell perhaps not?” That appears like the woman power.


Drew:

Positively.


Christina:

I do consider Hayley had been registered into this triangle because possibly she’s had a crush on Tessa for a while in addition they came across at some purpose. And I also do not think Tessa is actually in whatever way, like, “oh, i cannot date the lady.” she actually is the same as, “yeah, we could buzz, we can hang.” But In my opinion Hayley’s slightly hung up on like, “wait, nevertheless connected with Rosie O’Donnell, the Rosie O’Donnell? Exactly how did that happen?”


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Christina:

I do not think there is any real stress in this triangle. I do believe there is certainly somewhat insecurity several concern.


Drew:

I see.


Christina:

I am not sure how we’re fixing it due to the fact again, i recently feel Tessa simply absolutely vibes completely. She is going to resemble, i eventually got to go hang out with Rita Ora and Tayo Otiti at some point, therefore get you lates. But i really do imagine, I don’t know, maybe by the end it stops with Hayley and Rosie connecting at some kind of brunch.


Drew:

Oh, I Like that.


Christina:

Like, yeah, man. That is generational lesbians. This is like, we’re passing the torch. In my opinion that might be actually beautiful, truly.


Drew:

Which beautiful.


Christina:

That will be in addition thus crazy.


Drew:

Yeah. Let’s proceed to the second random trio.


Christina:

Oh child.


Drew:

Okay. Therefore it is Niecy Nash.


Christina:

Waiting around for this one.


Drew:

Hunter Schafer.


Christina:

Uh-huh (affirmative).


Drew:

And Holland Taylor.


Christina:

Well, today.


Drew:

Wow.


Christina:

Huh. Once again you have placed me in a difficult scenario. Today, after all, i assume it is like, we have to start out with Holland and Niecy. I don’t know what is actually happening here. Both are in very happy interactions.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

I am not sure if anybody knows that Niecy Nash is completely enthusiastic about her wife, but she’s, and I’m yes she’s submitted at the least six instances now about this fact.


Drew:

Hunt, often love triangles tend to be unrequited.


Christina:

I think it’s going to need to be, but I feel adore it’s unrequited in every single drilling way. What is Hunter Schafer doing right here? Hunter Schafer is much like a dang teenager just vibing.


Drew:

Early twenties. Simply want to clear up.


Christina:

I said the thing I stated. That’s the exact same get older. Jenna from

Any Office,

oahu is the same photo. Come on. This one, i may have to put the bath towel in regarding. I truly hardly understand.


Drew:

Okay. We can in addition place the names back in. Hold off, let me put Hunter Schafer back.


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

So We attending carry out—


Christina:

Extract me personally something else entirely. I can create one thing occur with Niecy and Holland. I’m not sure what, it is extremely dramatic.


Drew:

Oh. Okay. This will be a rather fascinating trio. Gillian Anderson.


Christina:

Oh. today, Gillian, famously semi newly unmarried, has actually your pet dog, in addition genuine. She is don’t internet dating the guy from

The Crown

that made the woman feel Margaret Thatcher, which I think is most likely for the best. Today, hmm. See, I feel like someone’s simply browsing should have thoughts for Niecy during the part because she’s only undertaking the woman thing.


Drew:

That’s an extremely great point. That’s an excellent point.


Christina:

She actually is merely doing the woman thing. I think Holland and Sarah, I don’t know, they could get freaky. There could be maybe, possibly they invite Gillian over for drinks. Maybe things have a little spicy. Who could say? Perhaps Niecy includes Jessica. Perhaps Jessica simply leaves early. Perhaps there’s feelings on all edges. Again, I don’t know actually what’s going on because i can not picture these people in alike space together. It’s fascinating to give some thought to, for me personally. We’ll spend a lot of time thinking about it later. Now, though?


Drew:

Yeah. It would possibly certainly be an orgy minute with the associates involved, like celebrate Gillian Anderson becoming single.


Christina:

In my opinion that would be it. I believe they could have become together and already been like, why don’t we understand this noted bisexual into some puss. I do believe that would be amazing.


Drew:

Wow. Exactly what a remarkable fivesome that will be. Okay. Moving forward.


Christina:

Also, should I merely ask one concern regarding cap? Would it be like a news boy cap?


Drew:

Its. There isn’t like a… It’s a fairly superficial cap, but I don’t have lots of hats. So it is—


Christina:

I am pleased the one that you really have is a newsboy cap.


Drew:

It’s somewhat newsboy limit. Yeah. In my opinion I pull it off sometimes.


Christina:

You have the tresses for it. I think it.


Drew:

Thanks.


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Drew:

Okay. Demi Lovato.


Christina:

Incredible.


Drew:

Christina Tucker. And Cara Delevingne.


Christina:

Interesting. Now it is fascinating. Because operating me into let me reveal not at all something I usually carry out. I Do Not usually create reader fic for the reason that it’s—


Drew:

I understand.


Christina:

Awkward.


Drew:

Well let’s embarrass you.


Christina:

Let us embarrass me. So Cara’s had some form of collecting, right, at her bonkers home with the pussy tunnel and all of the Leo sculptures into the yard, that is what’s happening. I think Demi provides chosen that they’ll go to, it is perhaps nevertheless only a little stressed about planning to a celebration only at that lunatic lesbian’s residence because famously, material issues tend to be difficult. A celebration at Cara’s property is going to get weird rapidly. There is a complete space which is just a ball gap. I really don’t determine what’s going on there. And I famously don’t love parties or folks. Thus I feel maybe Demi and I also have actually connected in some kind of quiet people zone. My personal instinct feels as though Cara only would like to begin some shit and merely attempts to get into between that in some manner, just for the crisis benefit of it all. Brings the woman intercourse table fuel to this because, you need to result in turmoil, whenever you? additionally a Leo, she’s going to wind up as, hello, how come the interest instead of me personally?


Drew:

So that the question that We have is actually Cara splitting up the and Demi’s gorgeous by going for you or choosing Demi? Which one of you strays?


Christina:

And that’s the thing I can not… Hmm. Hmm. My personal gut is like i need to state Demi, but that is because I don’t feel i’d accomplish that. And I think style of bad stating that Demi should do that, once more, individuals i really do maybe not know and certainly will most likely never know. But perhaps because I am not doing that.


Drew:

Yeah. But I believe as if you’re dedicated off inactivity. So I do not know if you need to feel terrible about this.


Christina:

Completely. That is a notorious motto, end up being lazy because it’s effortless.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Hello.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

Yeah. And I also in addition think Cara would deplete me personally.


Drew:

Yeah. That’s probably correct. I would love to find it though.


Christina:

Oh yes. I possibly could be worn out for like a weekend. I possibly could end up being exhausted for like a weekend or two.


Drew:

Okay. This is the last one. It’s Kiki Palmer.


Christina:

Fun.


Drew:

Hunter Schafer, who was simply placed back the cap due to get older variations. And me personally. Wow. I enjoy that I’m a part of this. What? Happy birthday celebration if you ask me.


Christina:

Okay. Very Drew is actually really love with both Kiki Palmer and Hunter Schafer. That is where we are starting.


Drew:

Naturally.


Christina:

I don’t actually know where we are stopping from there for the reason that it simply appears like what’s going to occur. See, Kiki provides this, the thing I like about Kiki Palmer, one of the numerous circumstances i enjoy about Kiki Palmer, is that the woman is 27 yrs old and it has the vitality of a 45 year-old Ebony girl after all moments of the day. I do believe its incredible to have this type of huge auntie electricity at the woman early age. And I only feel like in a love triangle situation, she’d resemble, “Oh no, I’m a kid of God. I eventually got to go. That isn’t for me. Y’all would what you must perform, but I am all set with this.” So perhaps you and Kiki have connected previously and now Hunter provides registered the scene and Hunter’s similar, Ooh, i acquired a crush with this individual. And possibly Kiki can be like, yeah, i am allowing it to go.


Drew:

Wait, Hunter features a crush on me personally? Maybe Not Kiki?


Christina:

Without a doubt.


Drew:

Oh, thanks. Wow.


Christina:

Seriously.


Drew:

Wow. Exactly what a world, in which I’m connecting with Kiki Palmer. Following containing to end because we start online dating Hunter Schafer.


Christina:

After all what some sort of by which i am also sluggish to deceive on Demi Lovato. There’s a lot of globes that people’re going through.


Drew:

Wow.


Christina:

Yeah. But i do believe you guys absolutely vibe, but In my opinion it ends because Hunter is a lot like, mm, I want to carry out a lot more with my life. I would like to move out indeed there and discover some shit. She is younger.


Drew:

I am talking about, I Am Aware. That’s great.


Christina:

I understand. And Kiki’s like, if anyone would like to arrive over on Sunday for brunch, you’re welcome.


Drew:

Oh, thus Kiki and I also stay friends?


Christina:

I believe every person remains buddies contained in this circumstance.


Drew:

Oh, which is wonderful. Which is wonderful. Ok, I like that


Christina:

I don’t consider there is actual damage feelings. In my opinion everyone’s like, yeah, progress. It must take place.


Drew:

Yeah. That is great. I really like this. Really, this is a pleasure. Thank you so much for playing with me.


Christina:

Thank you for, I’m phoning this The Newsboy cover game.


Drew:

Great. Move complete Like Triangles. It is now a Newsboy Cover.


Christina:

Yeah. No, which was truly fun.


Drew:

I am therefore grateful. Well, i do believe it’s time that people enter into the main topic associated with the few days with these very special visitor. So our topic recently is actually first dates, and, very special guest, do you wish to introduce yourself?


Analyssa:

I do. Many thanks for inquiring. I’m Analyssa and I am the co-host of Autostraddle’s

To L and Straight Back

podcast with Drew sufficient reason for Riese. Then when Drew and Christina did their own intro, I got to bite my tongue to not say, “i am Analyssa!” Which can be frequently my intro.


Christina:

You probably did a fantastic job, and that I thank you so much’re recognized to learn it, certainly.


Analyssa:

Yeah. I help co-host the

To L and Right Back

podcast, I authored some things for Autostraddle. We just work at a TV studio, so the admiration Triangles game believed very specifically intended for my personal presence additionally. Few years listener, first time person.


Christina:

Incredible.


Analyssa:

Et cetera, etc. Hello everybody.


Drew:

Plus, my personal roomie. Thus really, our company is tracking this independently for audio functions, but we are in spaces with a wall between us.


Christina:

It is stunning things. And I love this synergy, this Autostraddle combination advertising terminology.


Analyssa:

Its a little bit like, performed I have regarding the pod considering nepotism? Like variety of.


Christina:

Yes. In equity to you, our visitors have actually obtained on pod up until now as a result of nepotism. Very?


Drew:

Ana, should I want to know anything openly about this podcast? As I reference the wall structure among our areas. I can not make use of my vibrator while everyone is home, right? The wall space are too thin. Or maybe you’ve not heard? Perhaps you have not heard it?


Analyssa:

I have heard one sex sound from the area.


Drew:

Okay. Once isn’t poor.


Christina:

Well, now I have some followup questions. Only one lone intercourse noise? Or was it a continued rumble of a vibrator?


Analyssa:

No, I just indicate one instance.


Christina:

Gotcha.


Drew:

Okay. I am able to live with that.


Analyssa:

And we can mention that offline because I think I’m sure if it ended up being, when you have significantly more concerns we are able to chat.


Drew:

Cool.


Christina:

I might love to be concerned.


Drew:

Yeah. Christina, you’ll be able to appear.


Christina:

In addition pleased to mail anybody some kind of white noise equipment, In my opinion could also do wonders.


Drew:

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